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Welcome

Rise Up Counselling is a therapeutic practice specializing in supporting individuals and families experiencing challenges in their parenting time, decision-making responsibilities, separation and divorce proceedings. We engage families with respect, empathy and the intimate knowledge of how to navigate the various systems they may find themselves in.
The fundamental scope of everything we do is to ensure that parents maintain a solid, healthy and nourishing relationship with their children.

We will walk side-by-side, one step at a time with families to reach their goals. Rise Up Counselling is a private practice offering in-person and virtual sessions. We welcome self and professional referrals.

Clinical Services

Support Therapy to individuals, families, parents and co-parents struggling with separation, divorce, parenting time and decision-making responsibilities as well as reunification.

Parenting & Co-parenting Coaching

An individualized approach to parenting & co-parenting support. Supporting children between homes.

Individual & Family Therapy

Therapy to individuals and families affected by trauma, divorce/separation, anger, grief and anxiety.

Providing consultations for separation/divorce

Providing needed support in family law proceedings.

Family Therapy & Reunification Therapy

Designed to heal relationships negatively affected by separation and or divorce.

Legal Consultations

Involving Child Welfare, Voice of the Child Reports, Parenting Plans & Case Consultations

Child Welfare & Risk of Child Welfare

Providing support during family law proceedings to professionals & families involving Child Welfare.

Creating Parenting Plans

Assistance formulating parenting plans for non-court ordered parenting and co-parenting agreements.

Voice of the Child Reports

Sharing the wishes/voice of the child for family law proceedings.

Case Consultations

Assisting in high conflict situations to help move proceedings forward.

Side-By-Side
One Step at a time

Discover how Rise Up Counselling can help you or your family.

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Gabbi Silverberg & Helen Yack: Rise Up Counselling

In this episode, our dynamic social work duo delves into crucial themes surrounding divorce dynamics. Explore the intricacies of introducing new partners to children, navigating the complexities of blending families, and rebuilding trust with your ex-spouse. Dive into discussions about managing egos during this emotional process and gain insights into divorce’s profound impact on children. Discover how every action, word, and decision shapes the lessons kids absorb, offering a compelling exploration into the profound ripple effects of divorce on family dynamics. It’s a conversation filled with practical advice, empathy, and a deep understanding of the intricate dance involved in the art of conscious uncoupling.

This week on the DL: Real Life Spotlight: Children of Divorce

Guess who’s back! This week Alex and Amanda chat with their colleagues, Helen Yack and Gabbi Silverberg from RiseUp Counselling! All four women speak candidly about their personal experiences with Divorce and the impacts on the next gen – spoiler, your kids will be fine! Helen and Gabbi take us inside the minds of children whose parents are going through divorce; how they make sense of their situations, and some dos and don’ts for parents during this time.

Dirty Laundry: The Divorce Podcast

This week A&A discuss the do’s and don’t’s around telling the kids you’re getting a divorce with the brilliant Helen Yack and Gabbi Silverberg of  Rise Up Counselling.

With practical tips like where to tell them, when to tell them and how much to tell them, you don’t want to miss it.

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Valentine’s Day is around the corner, which can trigger a number of different reactions. For some, it may amplify feelings of loneliness, especially if they are not in a romantic relationship. Others may find it difficult due to past heartbreaks, reminders of lost love, or societal expectations that can create pressure. Additionally, the commercialized nature of the day may make some feel excluded or emphasize societal norms they don’t conform to.

If you choose to acknowledge this day, do something fun and treat yourself to activities that bring joy, spend time with friends and family.

If you have children, spend quality time doing something you all enjoy, establish a Valentine’s Day tradition like cooking a special meal together or exchanging handmade cards.

Celebrate the love that extends beyond romantic relationships, embracing the beautiful bond with your children. Most importantly take a moment to reflect on personal growth since the divorce. Remember, love comes in many forms, and today is about celebrating all the love that surrounds you. 💖

#ValentinesDay #SelfLove #NewBeginnings #LifeAfterDivorce
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There is no such thing as luck regarding a co-parenting relationship. Behind every successful co-parenting relationship is a parent who respects the other parent, has the skills to resolve conflict positively, and keeps the kids out of the middle. We have never met a co-parenting couple where it just comes easy. There always needs to be an effort to make it a positive experience for both parents.

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Separating from a partner is never easy. During this time, it is common for people to seek support and understanding from their loved ones and friends. However, often in these situations, we tend to shape a narrative where we place the blame solely on the other person for the failure of the relationship.

Blaming our partner for the relationship’s demise can be a way to protect ourselves from the pain and discomfort of accepting our own role in the breakdown. It allows us to shift the responsibility onto someone else, making it easier to cope. Additionally, blaming the other person can also serve as a way to seek validation and empathy from others, as they rally around us in support.

While it is understandable to feel hurt and betrayed after a separation, it is important to recognize that relationships are a two-way street. Both parties contribute to the dynamics and challenges faced within the partnership. Placing the blame solely on the other person oversimplifies the complexities of a relationship and fails to acknowledge our own shortcomings and contributions to its downfall.

Taking an honest and introspective approach to the end of a relationship allows us to grow and learn from our experiences. It allows us to identify patterns and behaviors that may have contributed to the breakdown and work towards personal growth and self-improvement. By taking responsibility, we can move forward with a deeper understanding of ourselves and our needs in future relationships.

It is important to remember that separating from a partner does not define our worth or value as individuals. The end of a relationship is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. By recognizing our own accountability and reframing the narrative we tell others, we can empower ourselves to heal, learn, and move forward in a healthier and more fulfilling way.

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Healing from divorce is a diverse process that encompasses physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, relational, and behavioural dimensions.
Physically, it involves recovering from stress and improving overall well-being. Emotionally, healing includes developing resilience and navigating complex feelings.

Psychologically, individuals may undergo shifts in thought patterns through therapeutic progress. Spiritually, finding inner peace and forgiveness is crucial. Relationally, healing leads to improved connections and trust rebuilding. Behaviourally, positive changes emerge through adopting healthier coping mechanisms.

Personal growth involves self-discovery, adaptability, and positive development toward a fulfilling post-divorce life. Recognizing the uniqueness of the healing journey and seeking professional support are key elements in navigating this transformative process.

#divorcehealing #divorcesupport #riseupcounselling #healing #SelfDiscovery #lifeafterdivorce
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Divorce is a life altering process that involves not only the end of a relationship but also the unraveling of shared dreams, hopes, and intertwined lives. During this roller coaster ride, many individuals find themselves instinctively responding with the catch-all phrase, “I feel fine,” as a way to mask the true depth of their emotions. Why do we often choose to say we’re fine when, in reality, we’re grappling with a myriad of complex feelings.

😱Denial and Shock - We may struggle to accept that our marriage is ending. Saying “I feel fine” is a defense mechanism, a way to shield ourselves from the overwhelming pain and uncertainty.

😔Grief and Loss - We mourn not only the loss of the relationship but also the loss of the future we had envisioned. Saying “I feel fine” may be an attempt to convince ourselves and others that we are coping well, even if we are sad.

😠Anger and Resentment - We may feel betrayed, hurt, or deceived by our former partner. The anger we experience can be intense, and saying “I feel fine” becomes a shield to hide our rage and protect ourselves from further vulnerability.

🤔Self-Reflection and Acceptance - We are introspective questioning what went wrong and what role we played in the breakdown of the marriage. We may also seek closure and strive to find acceptance. Saying “I feel fine” now becomes a mantra, a way to convince ourselves and others that we are making progress and healing.

🤗Healing and Growth - We start to accept the reality of the divorce and focus on healing and personal growth. Saying “I feel fine” may genuinely reflect a sense of peace and progress.

It is important to remember that it is okay not to be fine. Acknowledging and processing our true emotions is crucial for healing and moving forward. Seeking support, practicing self-care, and allowing ourselves to grieve are essential steps in navigating the emotional roller coaster of divorce. Remember, it’s okay to say, “I don’t feel fine,” and give ourselves permission to heal at our own pace.

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Navigating a challenging co-parenting dynamic can involve a constant exchange of legal correspondence, where accusations are made regarding your parenting decisions. Whether it’s being accused of being too involved or not engaged enough, sharing too much information with the kids, allowing them to interact with certain family members, putting them to bed too late, or being tardy in drop-offs – the accusations seem endless.

In the midst of this legal back-and-forth, communication with your ex-partner dwindles, leading to a significant shift in your parenting approach. The natural and instinctive parenting instincts you once relied on take a backseat as fear of potential consequences and the anticipation of receiving yet another lawyer’s letter from your ex.

This distressing cycle perpetuates a pattern where parents find themselves parenting out of fear, burdened by guilt stemming from the constant scrutiny and accusations. Every decision becomes a tightrope walk, with the fear of legal repercussions hovering, further deepening the emotional toll and transforming parenting into a delicate dance fueled by worry and guilt.

Recognizing the toll this takes on both parents and, more importantly, the children, seeking co-parenting therapy can be a transformative step. In therapy, a neutral third party can facilitate communication, helping parents understand each other’s perspectives and work towards common ground. By addressing underlying issues and fostering healthier communication, co-parenting therapy provides a constructive space to break free from the cycle of fear and guilt, allowing parents to rebuild a more collaborative and supportive co-parenting relationship for the well-being of their children.

Contact Rise Up Counselling to see how we can be of assistance in your co-parenting relationship.

#riseupcounselling #coparenting #communication #highconflictdivorce #childrenofdivorce #divorcedoneright #separation #divorcesupport #socialworkersofinstagram
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Boundaries are about becoming clear on your values and your priorities, and then setting limits around people or activities in your life that don’t bring you joy or don’t make you feel fulfilled.

Boundaries are necessary; especially post separation. So why are setting, implementing and following through with boundaries so difficult at times?

One of the main impediments to boundary setting is guilt! People feel guilty setting a line, and are afraid of hurting feelings. We’re also reluctant to set boundaries for fear of being disliked or rejected.

The reality is, there’s often no way to set boundaries without hurting other people. However, we cannot be responsible for the feelings of others.

Setting boundaries means putting ourselves first. Telling our parents that “I do not want to be asked about my divorce everyday. When there is something for you to know, I will share it with you,” or telling your ex “I will only respond to messages twice a week.”

Boundaries are a necessary part of maintaining healthy relationships.

Feel free to contact Rise Up Counselling to help develop your boundaries.

#riseupcounselling #healthyboundaries #highconflict #divorce #separation #childrenofdivorce #socialwork #therapist
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Choosing curiosity over judgment is a powerful mindset shift that not only transforms our interactions but also enhances personal growth. Embracing curiosity allows us to delve into the richness of different perspectives, empathy and understanding.

Leading with curiosity can help co-parenting relationships by replacing quick judgments with a better understanding of where the other person is coming from.

#CuriosityNotJudgment #EmbraceDiversity #OpenMinds #riseupcounselling #lifeafterdivorce #highconflictdivorce #divorce #separation
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Today is National Compliment Day. January 24th offers a wonderful way to brighten someone’s day or to give credit for a job well done!

Give an extra compliment annually on January 24th and any time one is deserved.

A compliment has a powerful effect. It can instill confidence in a child, or validate someone’s hard work. A compliment not only improves the receiver’s mood, but it also says something about the giver. It tells them you noticed. Whether we recognize someone’s achievement or their classic style, a compliment can go a long way.

#nationalcomplimentday #lifeafterdivorce #riseupcounselling #socialworkersofinstagram #bekind
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While the COVID-19 pandemic has been a global challenge with significant negative impacts, it has also led to some unexpected positive outcomes and changes as it relates to technology, especially in the area of Telehealth for clients and therapists. Rise Up Counselling offers in person sessions in the Thornhill area, but for those that cannot make in person sessions, we offer virtual sessions to anyone living in Ontario. There are still many benefits to virtual sessions:

🚀 Accessibility: Break free from geographical constraints! We can connect with anyone living in Ontario.
🕰️ Convenience: Say goodbye to long commutes! Virtual therapy offers flexible scheduling, making it easier to find the time that suits YOU.
🏡 Comfort and Familiarity: Therapy from the comfort of your own space! Create a safe and familiar environment to enhance your therapeutic journey.
🤝 Consistency: Moving or traveling? No worries! Virtual therapy ensures you can maintain a consistent therapeutic relationship.
🔧 Technology Facilitation: Embrace various platforms - video calls, phone calls, or messaging - tailored to your preferences. Technology at your service!
🎯 Enhanced Focus: Minimize distractions and stay focused on your healing journey.

Remember, virtual therapy might not be for everyone or every situation, but it’s undeniably convenient for those that want the support.

#VirtualTherapy #MentalHealthMatters #EmbraceChange #TherapyJourney #riseupcounselling #highconflictdivorce #socialworkersofinstagram #divorce #lifeafterdivorce #lifeduringseparation # childrenofdivorce
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Emerging from the shadows of divorce brings both challenges and opportunities. Here are some tips for those stepping into the world of post-divorce dating:

💕Embrace Self-Discovery: Rediscover yourself—it’s like getting to know your favorite character in a book, but this time, you’re the author!

💕Patience is a Virtue: Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is a perfect relationship. Enjoy the journey, and take breaks when needed.

💕Be Open and Honest: Think of it as a dating confession booth—spill the beans, and let your authentic self shine. No judgments, just good vibes.

💕Learn from the Past: Reflect on past relationships like a casual stroll down memory lane, not a marathon. Let the lessons guide, not burden you.

💕Embrace the Adventure: See post-divorce dating as an adventure. Enjoy meeting new people, trying new activities, and discovering shared interests.

💕Set Realistic Expectations: Think of it as ordering food online—sometimes the picture doesn’t match the reality, but hey, there’s always room for delightful surprises.

💕Surround Yourself with Support: Your crew is like the cheering section. They’ll be there with popcorn and emotional support for the plot twists!

In conclusion, post-divorce dating is an opportunity for a lighthearted adventure. Embrace the journey, savor the moments, and approach each connection with a smile and an open heart. With patience, self-discovery, and a dash of positivity, the path to finding love again becomes a delightful and transformative experience.

#LoveAfterDivorce #DatingAdventure #lifeafterdivorce ##riseupcounselling #separation #divorce #socialworkersofinstagram
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In the aftermath of a divorce, navigating the co-parenting dynamic becomes inevitable when children are in the picture. This entails maintaining a lasting connection with your ex-partner, extending the journey beyond the past relationship. Instead of merely leaving them behind, moving forward means ongoing communication. If this co-parenting relationship is strained, it can pose challenges, potentially affecting the well-being of the children involved. Co-parents might find value in exploring co-parenting therapy.

Co-parenting therapy aims to guide parents in setting aside resentment and advancing in a respectful manner for the sake of their children. Rather than being tethered to past grievances, individuals can employ this therapy to achieve equilibrium while fulfilling their parenting roles. The benefits of co-parenting therapy manifest in conflict reduction and enhanced communication skills.

At Rise Up Counselling, our personalized approach to co-parenting education empowers parents by helping them identify behaviors that may escalate conflicts or complicate their children’s lives between two households.

Feel free to inquire about co-parenting therapy and its suitability for your situation.

#riseupcounselling #coparenting #coparentingtherapy #divorce #separation #lifeafterdivorce #childrenofdivorce
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